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The reason I love this man so much

Yeah! Yeah! You think this is some kind of soppy love story. Sorry it’s not. This is a story about love of humanity and love of people in my life. People I know as Soul Family, people “I have recognized” when I have looked into their eyes. There are not that many of these special people who I instantly recognized, however, there are some who have impacted my life greatly. One such person is Tom Cronin. Tom and I have only known each other for a few months. We connected on LinkedIn and developed an instant friendship online and when we met in person. Tom is now my meditation teacher www.scienceofstillness.com (I highly recommend).

Now this is what is happening in my life at the moment:  I am connecting with people on the same ‘wavelength’. We are people who are not out for ourselves, we are people who want to be part of a community that helps each other. A community where everyone is looked after, a community where there is no competition, a community where there is respect and most importantly a community where there is TRUST and LOVE.

So this is my newest LOVE. No not a romantic love, someone I trust, respect, love and, is part of my win/win community.

Here are some very wise words from Tom: please don’t tell him I’m guilty of 4 points  below 😉

  • Do you check your phone when you are on the toilet?
  • Do you text on your phone when you are walking?
  • Do you check your email and Facebook at the red traffic lights?
  • Do you snap photos of those quiet moments on the beach or park and post it on
    Instagram and Facebook?
  • Do you check your phone while you are in bed just before you go to sleep?
  • Do you send a picture of every meal to Instagram?(Yes, guilty to some of these!)

It appeared to me the other day that I have filled in all the gaps in my day
with the distraction of my phone. I realised that I didn’t have any spaces in
my day that were voids of restfulness and simply ‘Being’.

You know those brief moments of just sitting, be it at a traffic light, in a
park, on the train, or yes, even on the toilet!

When I grew up part of our daily routine was morning and afternoon tea. So
around 11am and 4pm everything we were doing would stop, and the entire family
would sit around for cup of tea and small snack. It was a moment of respite
 from work and ‘doingness’. This tea break would last about 20-30 minutes and
would be spent simply sitting around in the sun on the porch, sometimes
chatting, sometimes just in silence.

Up until 2005, the year the iPhone was born, our days were often filled with
small gaps of emptiness. These were moments of respite to contemplate, ponder
and just BE in a simple state of awareness.

In observing my life and the lives of others around me, I have realised that
slowly we have removed all those gaps in our day and we’ve filled them in with
more and more data processing without even noticing.

Emails, Facebook, Twitter, sms, Kik, Heytell, Instagram, news feeds and Google.
 Data, data data!

Some of our most creative impulses and intuitions are born in those gaps.

At the moment we are relying on someone else’s post of a Rumi quote or a
Youtube clip of a waterfall for inspiration rather than connecting with our own
inner voice of wisdom.
So how do we bring back the gaps?

How do we regain those small daily moments of respite that are free of data?

Get my 6 tips on the blog


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The benefits of meditation

wellnessThere are many things in my life that I am truly grateful for. One of those is meeting Tom Cronin.  Tom and I met on LinkedIn actually and since meeting, Tom has become a speaker on my books, Vox Presenters and my meditation teacher.  I cannot stress enough how I am benefiting from my meditation.  I feel more relaxed, I seem to have more time, I feel peaceful.

Here is a short 15 minute interview I recorded with Tom, along with some slides.  Interview with Tom Cronin

Visit Tom’s website www.scienceofstillness.com

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3 Days of Chaos

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Day One:  Attended a great wine & cheese evening at Zigis, met some fabulous people and discovered some new things about wines and cheese.  Oops …too much wine maybe and too much cheese, and now I’ve missed my train to the Central Coast so I have to wait another half hour. Finally I hop on the 10.15 pm and Oh No….my boredom saver has run out of battery! My phone is flat and how am I going to “Tweet” “Facebook” and read the news without my phone?

One hour later and only 15 minutes from my station, the boredom sets in and….I crash out like a light.  Finally I wake up to discover we are pulling into my station except it looks nothing like my station, in fact, Oh No where the hell am I???? Oh oh! it’s now 12.00 am and I know I have missed my station. Hop off train and I’m in this deserted, isolated place where I’ve never been before. “Breathe Deb…just breathe Deb and stay calm” I say to myself.

Heart is pumping and panic wants to take over but I know that panic will destroy me so I get a grip. I look up the timetable and the next train back is 40 minutes away. Oh S*** I say!  I’m actually terrified by now but I stay calm, despite the fact I know my phone has completely run out of juice and I have no way of communicating to anyone or phoning for help.

The return train finally arrives and with great anticipation I hop on. I go upstairs and some young guy, who is completely off his face and thinks chatting up an old bird is cool (probably doesn’t realize I’m old because he’s so wasted), tries to have a conversation. Not really wanting to be chatting to my new friend, I go downstairs and I creep by the other weird looking guy who is thankfully, asleep.  Until Sleeping Beauty decides to wake up and pace up and down the carriage like a madman.

I stay calm. I look straight ahead not giving him eye contact and I remember the day I earned my Blue Belt in Taekwondo. I remember when I had to do a spinning back kick and break a wooden board with my bare foot. I remember everything that I was taught in self defence and……

PHEW…I didn’t have to use those skills thank goodness because the train terminates! “WHAT????” I say to myself, I have 4 stops to go. Too bad, end of service for the night, the guard informs me. I race out to the road and thank God a cab pulls up.  I arrive home some time after 1.00 a.m. shaken, but no harm was done. It could have been worse, I could have been attacked while asleep or I could have not woken up and ended up miles away with no return train. I’m so grateful that never happened.

Day Two:  I happen to have a guest spot on radio 2ue in Sydney on Sharina’s show www.sharina88.com – I’m also her manager and she picks me up on the way to the radio station which is a good one hour drive from where we live. I live in a place where there are 50 wooden steps down to the road.  I decide to put my thongs on to go down the steps, rather than the heels and just before I do that a huge storm hits so the steps are wet.  Off I go down the stairs with my umbrella up, thongs on, real shoes in my hand and bag over my shoulder. About  1/4 of the way down I feel my left foot losing grip…slow motion happens now…I know my foot has lost grip, I know I’m falling, I know this could be mighty serious…THUD…and I mean THUD then I start to speed down the steps on my back.  Somehow I manage to grab the railing and stop the slide. I lay there, oh and my umbrella is now inside out from the storm and all I can worry about is turning it back the right way. Then I start to shake and realize I’m actually in quite a bit of pain.  Then the thought comes to me “I wonder if I can move”…YES….I can! I stumble up shaking like a leaf and hobble under some shelter to FIX THE UMBRELLA!  Fast forward I get in the car and we go do the radio show and even though I’m sore I don’t feel that bad and it was a great show, the first for the year.

Until the next day!  OK, my back is not a pretty sight at the moment and I ache all over but do you know what? I could have broken my back, neck, bones or even died.  I’m so grateful that never happened.

Day three: I decide with all my soreness I best go for a walk to keep my muscles from getting stiff and off I go. Hmmm this isn’t quite as pleasant as normal because I’m actually in pain and the wind is blowing a gale off the bay. I soldier on.  Phone rings. It’s my mum who has a disability because of two strokes and is in a flap because dad is so sick (he has heart problems) an ambulance is on the way.  They live nearly 3 hours away in the country and I’m hobbling along on my walk in agony, wind is nearly knocking me over and I decide not to panic.  I realize the best thing to do is get to my destination, which is the local café, have something to eat because I’m starving and sit down figure out the best options. I realize ambulance is on the way and dad is in the best of care and they will take mum too.  As it turns out dad had an allergic reaction to his medicine and all is ok. I’m so grateful for that.

OK, three days of chaos and now it’s time for me to get some serious peace.  Lucky for me I have a new friend, Tom Cronin, who is a meditation expert and also a speaker on one of my bureaus, Vox Presenters.  I told Tom about my chaos days and he had me organized to start his stillness meditation course in no time.

I’ve had two sessions of stillness at time of writing this and I am looking forward of getting up tomorrow for my next 20 minutes of stillness.  Just what I need in my time of chaos and….I’m so grateful for that!


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Perfection

Perfection

Perfection

Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence.

Vince Lombardi

March on. Do not tarry. To go forward is to move toward perfection. March on, and fear not the thorns, or the sharp stones on life’s path.

Khalil Gibran

Aim at perfection in everything, though in most things it is unattainable. However, they who aim at it, and persevere, will come much nearer to it than those whose laziness and despondency make them give it up as unattainable.

Lord Chesterfield


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Never, never, never, never give up – Sir Winston Churchill

English: Sir Winston Churchill.

English: Sir Winston Churchill. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Never, never, never, never give up
Sir Winston Churchill 1874 – 1965

(Former British Prime Minister)

The words above quoted by former British Prime Minister, Winston Churchill, are etched into my mind so deeply I think I may have even become delusional! Why do I say this? Because that’s exactly how passionate I have been, and still am, about what I do, and what I want to achieve. I have a vision, a big one. A vision that sometimes consumes me with overwhelming fear, yet I have a drive that pushes me to my limits. A vision that others try to convince me I am delusional, yet I will: Never, never, never, never give up!

How does I person become so driven? I can only write about my own life and experiences. For me, it’s because I love what I do, booking speakers for conferences. I love listening to inspirational stories about the people I represent who have overcome huge challenges. I love learning new things taught to me by my speaker clients in Social Media, Marketing, Sales and the list goes on. I love writing! I have no idea how I can write considering I left school at 16 without even School Certificate. I did pass one subject which was shorthand/typing and I got 50/100 for that!

My message to you is this, if you have a dream, if you are so passionate that you do become delusional (according to all your naysayers), and if you can combine this passion, determination with faith, knowing that you will never, never, never, never give up, then one day you might just make it.

Examples of such people are John Symonds from Aussie Home Loans, Donald Trump and Nelson Mandela.

Here is a link to a great article from Forbes on people who have never given up.


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Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life

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“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life”

Confucius: 551BC – 479 BC

My eldest daughter, Emma, always puts a lot of thoughts into her gift giving. Last year, Emma bought me some delightful gifts for Christmas and one of those was a little book of inspirational quotes. She knows what I like! I love this little book and I’m using the quotes in some of my posts, like the one above.

I can relate to those words from a very wise man all those years ago.  That’s because I’m always in trouble from my family for the amount of time I spend working, to me though, it’s simply not work. I love what I do. I love blogging, booking speakers for events and recruiting – all things I believe actually help other people. I love it when I put a keynote speaker in a conference or training session and people are inspired. I love it when I put people in jobs, it really makes me happy.

The most thoughtful girl on the planet (in her mum's eyes).

The most thoughtful girl on the planet (in her mum’s eyes) and chicken lover.

Along the way I’ve met some very inspirational people. Some of them have gone through very challenging times in their lives like Carol Cooke, Kate Allatt and Erin McNeill who are all now on my books.  Their stories inspire me beyond words and it fills me with gratitude that, so far, my challenges have been nothing compared to these ladies. Yes, I have my own health issues, however by choosing not to focus on that and being totally in gratitude that I can keep myself pretty healthy by diet and my attitude, I manage OK.

I’m loving what I do, so even when times have been tough, I have never given up and I’ve forced ahead despite the naysayers who have tried to convince me otherwise.

I feel I never work a day in my life, because I’m so happy with what I do. I’m so happy with the people I meet. I am so happy that I can work the hours I want. I am so happy that I’ve met people from around the world that make a huge difference.

Find your passion, find something that you love to do and you, too, will never have to work a day in your life.


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Self Esteem

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“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” Eleanor Roosevelt 1884-1962

I love this  quote.  How very true is this? The only way someone who insults you are puts you down can only succeed in making you feel bad is if you let them. Of course it’s not easy to ignore people who judge you or say things about you that you don’t like, yet you are in charge of your thoughts and your feelings. YOU…no one else. It’s taken me years of practice to get to the point I am now, where I switch off thoughts of negativity that make me feel bad.

It’s easy to feel bad if you have negative thoughts and focus on something you don’t want or like. The same goes for focusing on thoughts that make you feel happy and bring you joy.

Again, only you can be in charge of how you feel and it depends on what information you let your mind think about.

Happy New Year!


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Just One Day to Go: by guest blogger Paul Alexander Wolf

PEACE!

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Paul sent me this message today and I thought it would be nice to share.

 

Needless to say we may face many problems in 2013, things to be resolved. However the problems or questions we may face are as important as our response because in the final analysis we have at a large extend a free choice, – based on our principles and individual values.

So let 2013 be a year of “dreaming things which never happened” and let it come true in terms of love, peace and compassion. All in a spirit of optimistic belief despite the reality not always deserves this optimistic belief, – but it’s the only thing which could have a ripple effect for new ways to go, – new ways which are different!

Where there is hatred let’s try not to answer it in hatred. Where there is division let’s try to bring people together and resolve the issues we face. Where there is violence and lawlessness let’s use the peaceful efforts to endeavour our Governments to implement the law enforcement our countries deserve, whether this applies to the issues of human rights or any other issues, – inequality included.

Let wisdom and love reign where unthoughtfulness and greed could spiral this small planet into the fruits of negative actions.

The greater direction we together can take will reduce the level of polarization to be at stake, – for all of us involved!

HAPPY 2013!
Read more from Paul: http://paulalexanderwolf.wordpress.com/


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Twitter – how I met two amazing people today, one from the US and the other from the UK

Twitter has introduced me to some amazing people around the world and today was no exception.

I have been following the story of Erin McNeill for over a year. Erin suffered horrific burns in a house fire in 2009. Erin, who was named the Sunday Mail Young Scot of 2012 in April, scooped the Miss United Nation International title in Jamaica recently and despite her bravery and remarkable story she still became the target of internet trolls. I’ve invited Erin to join the Voxy Lady books as an inspirational speaker. How did we meet? I noticed a Tweet of Erin’s and I retweeted……the rest is history.

I also met another remarkable person today, Joshua Adams who followed me on Twitter and I followed him back. I noticed Joshua was a singer so I checked out his website and watched his latest single “Everything Will Be Alright” on You Tube. I loved the message of Joshua’s song and his video clip so I asked what inspired him to write the song “Everything Will Be Alright”?

Part of our Twitter conversation

Joshua Adams ‏@JoshuaAdamsRock @voxyladyspeaker Everyone goes through bad times…sometimes all you can say is “Everything Will Be Alright” :)

I share Joshua’s video clip here…..well worth watching and available on iTunes.

Twitter – making friends around the world.  I love it!


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I’m a confident woman

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NYC – Bank of New York Building (Photo credit: wallyg)

Last November I visited New York for the first time in my life and I was a woman on a mission.  I wanted to experience being a mature woman on her own who was confident enough to go to a bar by herself order a drink and not feel intimidated. I also wanted to be able to do this without being self-conscious or be someone who had to be playing with her mobile phone for security.

Did I do it? YES! I didn’t have a choice really. This is what happened:  I landed after the very long trip via Hong Kong (which adds more hours on), and when I finally arrived in New York and I went straight to my hotel www.yotel.com (I highly recommend this place…so trendy).

Now picture this: I had flown over to New York because my business was nominated for an award. I arrived at my hotel around 11.45 pm. On the way via to NY I had stopped in Hong Kong and had dinner with my brother who is an international airline pilot and flies to Hong Kong frequently.  I boarded my plane for NY and he boarded his plane to fly it back to Sydney.  As I enter my room filled with excitement, happiness, achievement and elation I look at the window and soak in the fact I’m in the one city I always wanted to be in.

Phone rings.

It’s my brother who I had seen a number of hours earlier in Hong Kong. He says, “Mum has had a massive stroke it’s really bad”…..

I sit down in disbelief.  Total disbelief.  This can’t be happening, this can’t be true.

By now it is midnight.  After my phone call I decide I can’t sleep, I can’t think, I want to scream and I’ve already cried. There is only one thing to do. Go out by myself and go get a drink in a bar.

I did it! I did it without feeling self-conscious, I chatted to a local and for 30 minutes and shared my story.

Today, mum has had another stroke and we battle on.  As I close this year off I think back and really have to admit it’s been a hard one, yet I type this smiling.

I’ve had more experiences to add to my already very unusual and eventful life, and one of them is….I can go to any bar in any city by myself and have a drink and just watch the people go by….and of course chat to those that come up to me. 😉

I wish all my readers a Happy Christmas and a fantastic 2013….. I look forward to the coming year with great anticipation and I have a goal…..I’m going back to NYC!

I have one tip: Get out of your comfort zone it does wonders for your life.


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I am NOT a Christmas Grinch…well maybe I am.

My daughter recently sms’d me a message and called me GRINCH….lol…made me laugh because I think I am a Grinch…and only because I see Christmas in a different light than most.


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If this is the only post you ever read on this blog then my job is done

I returned from a conference in Melbourne today and literally had to fumble on to the train when I landed as I was carrying my corporate banner, 2 handbags and my overnight bag AND  I was wearing stiletto heels just to make the task for myself even harder.  When I got on the train I had to put my bags on the seat in front of me as I had so many.  As I sat down I noticed a young guy across the aisle. He had tattoos and a crew cut and I thought to myself…”I’d better watch this one”.  He gave me a polite smile so I then decided he was cool and I could let the guard down for the one hour and 15 minute journey. As they say first impressions count although when you get to the end of this post you might wonder …do they?  One thing I did notice he was neatly dressed and was wearing trendy jeans, a nice shirt and polished shoes.

As we were moving along the train became crowded so I had to move my bags off the seat for others to sit down, and the young man offered to put them next to him so I thanked him. For some reason we kept exchanging smiles and later we started to chat. OK let’s establish something here please, this is not a cougar story and I plead for you to read on as I’m asking for your help.

As we kept chatting I found out that Tyson (we had exchanged names now) was coming home from a week’s training as he was trying to get a job.  I asked him some questions and I suggested maybe he could try doing some labouring as I had a contact he could call. Tyson told me he didn’t have the ability to do labouring and I didn’t quite understand what he meant by that.  As we kept talking across the aisle I mentioned I was going to get up and close the door behind us as I couldn’t hear properly and before I could stand Tyson immediately jumped up on the seat and closed it for me. It was then I realised that Tyson didn’t have the ability to do manual work because he had an obvious disability, yet he just jumped up to close the door for me without hesitating. Such good manners!

I suggested we move the bags to the floor and I moved over to his side and sat next to him. I asked Tyson what happened to him and he said he was born with Spina Bifida and asked me if I knew what it was, and I replied yes.  He then told me the wheelchair I walked past in the vestibule area was his. Tyson is in his mid-twenties by the way.

As we continued to chat I realised that I was sitting next to a very special person. I mentioned to Tyson that I was a recruiter and also in the motivational speaking industry and perhaps he should consider speaking as a career.   I also told him about one of the speakers who I represent, Carol Cooke, who had just won a Gold Medal in the Paralympics. However, Tyson is certainly not ready to jump straight on the circuit, I’d need to coach him on that so I mentioned I could possibly help him find a job in customer service as that is what he told me he loves to do. By the then end of our train journey I had found a special new friend and also an excellent candidate. As we chatted I asked Tyson a lot of questions and I gathered a lot of information about this young man.  Which is:

  • He is considerate
  • He is polite
  • He has excellent communication skills
  • Obviously great people skills
  • He is willing to learn
  • He has a can do and will do attitude
  • He will work for 2 weeks for free to prove himself (but I’m not going to let  him do that because I know he deserves to be paid)
  • He  is prepared to travel up to 2 hours to go to work via public transport despite he is in a wheelchair
  • He would make a very good, dedicated employee if given the chance.
  • He’s great on the phone because we have chatted again tonight via telephone
  • He has proven he can overcome obstacles
  • He has willpower

 

So the reason I called this post “If this is the only post you ever read on this blog then my job is done” is because if  this blog was to help Tyson get a job within customer service or as a concierge with a club or hotel, then the purpose of this blog would be meaningful.

For anyone reading this in Sydney, if you have a position going or know of someone who is looking for a great customer service person preferably on the Central Coast, Hornsby, Epping, Strathfield or Sydney CBD train line then I have the candidate for you! If not could you please put this post on your social media to help Tyson get a job (and of course there is no recruitment fee involved).