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The reason I love this man so much

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Yeah! Yeah! You think this is some kind of soppy love story. Sorry it’s not. This is a story about love of humanity and love of people in my life. People I know as Soul Family, people “I have recognized” when I have looked into their eyes. There are not that many of these special people who I instantly recognized, however, there are some who have impacted my life greatly. One such person is Tom Cronin. Tom and I have only known each other for a few months. We connected on LinkedIn and developed an instant friendship online and when we met in person. Tom is now my meditation teacher (I highly recommend).

Now this is what is happening in my life at the moment:  I am connecting with people on the same ‘wavelength’. We are people who are not out for ourselves, we are people who want to be part of a community that helps each other. A community where everyone is looked after, a community where there is no competition, a community where there is respect and most importantly a community where there is TRUST and LOVE.

So this is my newest LOVE. No not a romantic love, someone I trust, respect, love and, is part of my win/win community.

Here are some very wise words from Tom: please don’t tell him I’m guilty of 4 points  below 😉

  • Do you check your phone when you are on the toilet?
  • Do you text on your phone when you are walking?
  • Do you check your email and Facebook at the red traffic lights?
  • Do you snap photos of those quiet moments on the beach or park and post it on
    Instagram and Facebook?
  • Do you check your phone while you are in bed just before you go to sleep?
  • Do you send a picture of every meal to Instagram?(Yes, guilty to some of these!)

It appeared to me the other day that I have filled in all the gaps in my day
with the distraction of my phone. I realised that I didn’t have any spaces in
my day that were voids of restfulness and simply ‘Being’.

You know those brief moments of just sitting, be it at a traffic light, in a
park, on the train, or yes, even on the toilet!

When I grew up part of our daily routine was morning and afternoon tea. So
around 11am and 4pm everything we were doing would stop, and the entire family
would sit around for cup of tea and small snack. It was a moment of respite
 from work and ‘doingness’. This tea break would last about 20-30 minutes and
would be spent simply sitting around in the sun on the porch, sometimes
chatting, sometimes just in silence.

Up until 2005, the year the iPhone was born, our days were often filled with
small gaps of emptiness. These were moments of respite to contemplate, ponder
and just BE in a simple state of awareness.

In observing my life and the lives of others around me, I have realised that
slowly we have removed all those gaps in our day and we’ve filled them in with
more and more data processing without even noticing.

Emails, Facebook, Twitter, sms, Kik, Heytell, Instagram, news feeds and Google.
 Data, data data!

Some of our most creative impulses and intuitions are born in those gaps.

At the moment we are relying on someone else’s post of a Rumi quote or a
Youtube clip of a waterfall for inspiration rather than connecting with our own
inner voice of wisdom.
So how do we bring back the gaps?

How do we regain those small daily moments of respite that are free of data?

Get my 6 tips on the blog


Debbie Carr Founding Director of Voxy Lady Women's Speaker Bureau and Vox Presenters

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